Bairo ghar nu center chhe
Submitted by admin on Tue, 2012-08-14 07:29
Mother (Maa) at whose breast Humanity is nurtured and in whose lap civilizations
are cradled.
For a woman nurturing and carrying is a part of her psyche. She is happiest
looking after her home and family. Children have very strong bond for their mother and
other siblings. A mother’s best employment is her children. Motherhood is a full time
job. Those children are fortunate who have a carrying mother. Somebody have well said,
“Give me one good mother and I shall give you a whole good nation.”
Being a woman, wife and mother is one of the most exciting, rewarding and
challenging jobs in the world. Raising a family of happy healthy children is an important
career we can think of. But we do not value it, because it is unpaid. But to bring up well
disciplined grown up child is the best gift a mother can give to the family and society she
belongs to. This is only possible by a mother’s full time vigilance. An educated mother
should not work full time job. If there is no need for that extra money, there are many
other venues which can help her occupy her free time.
As many magazines you turn over, at least you come across one article on
working moms and parenthood. There seems a lot concern over child neglect, as more
and more mothers are working or pursuing their career.
A home which is the emotional and spiritual centre of the family is so disliked by
a wife and mother. If the mother is away, the house looks deserted and unwelcoming to
the child returning from school and the husband from work.
If the mother is in the house, she may be busy in the kitchen, or on the internet, or
even sleeping in her room, children feel quite secure and feel all’s well with the world.
Where a couple works, it’s the woman who has to bear the brunt. In office she has
to please her boss and compete with her colleagues. Her work does not end at the office.
Real work begins for her on her return from office. At home she has to work harder, no
matter how tired she returns from work. She has to keep its inmates satisfied. Though
nowadays husband’s do help in sharing the house chores. But his contribution is just
cosmetic. She has to prepare meals, feed the kids, make their beds, and clean the dishes.
By the time she retires to bed she is dead tired. She has no time for her husband.
For a working woman, where she has to leave her child to a play nursery or day
care center. At work she will keep worrying about her child. Being a mom after all she
knows how difficult it is for the child to adjust to another hand and atmosphere. Infect
she does feel guilty of being away from the child. As a mother she is well aware that her
child too misses her. Even the child feels very emotionally insecure and mentally upset.
He also misses his home.
Even if a child is left home with a paid nanny or a nurse, however efficient she
may be, but she cannot take the place of a mother.
Day in and day out we hear so much about child abuse. How very unsafe some of
those day care centers are. We never know whom to trust. Where a child is left at home
with a paid nanny even that proves unsafe. So child without either of his parent at home
is not safe in his own home too.
Higher education in womenfolk, high paid jobs and financial independence have
attracted women to take up other roles. Formally working women were looked down
upon. Husbands did not like their wives to work for others. But nowadays men coerce
their wives to take up jobs and share in their financial burden. Men have got a better deal
both a wife and a financial partner. Women have most willingly accepted this new role. It
is then the woman who suffers. Either she does not realize this or does not admit it.
More often she becomes a victim of stress related illness, insomniac, depression,
hypertension and so many other health hazards, which take their toll on her.
Then one wonders why more and more women are keen on taking up jobs.
Especially moms, it consumes a good part of their waking hours. All at the cost of their
own health and home.
Women who wish to pursue there career should not have a family and children,
because you cannot serve two masters at the same time. If you are married and have
children, they should be your first priority. Mothers should be more committed to the
well being of their children. It is their most important duty towards a healthy society.
Each one of us have a duty towards the society we live in. If a child receives good
discipline from his parents he will grow up with confident and good understanding. He
will be a good student at school and later a good citizen and an asset to his family.
If you do not need that extra money, then do not work in a full time job. Do not
entrust the kids at the daycare centre or with paid nannies. Surely such kids may become
more independent and resilient. “But statistic shows that those kids, victims of parental
neglect is the main cause of delinquency, drug addiction and anxiety.”
In the best interest of her family and home a woman should not work in outside
job till the children are grown up. To put her education into use, there is lot she can do
from home. There are many welfare organizations that need volunteers. While the child is
away at school, she can put in a few hours in helping such organizations. There are so
many underprivileged poor and helpless, helping them are really more satisfying jobs for
women. This way she can put her intelligence and energy and contribute for the good of
the society.
Often working mothers argue that they are able to give a better standard of life to
their kids. Send them to expensive schools, and buy them all that money can buy. But,
does the real quality of life improve for the family.
In the formative years of a child, it’s only the mother who can influence the child
in deep values and character building. It is only the mother who knows her child best. At
this stage if a child is left with a paid nanny or left at the day care, he will develop their
characters and values. If a child does not receive a mother’s tender care such a child
becomes quite selfish and indifferent in his general attitude. He will grow up with a split
personality.
Moreover working in her career a woman is forced to become aggressive,
mentally hard and competitive. The gentle, sweet and tender part of her character is
replaced by a harsh exterior. She cannot be blamed for that. This is important for her
survival in the job market.
“A working mother may perhaps become more socially confident, but does she
have time to indulge in social service activities, which help a personality develop?” She
hardly has time to pursue her hobbies and things dear to a woman’s heart.
She may take the family on extravagant tours as she can afford them. But how
often in the year? What about those simple day to day pleasures of simple living, that she
cannot afford because of work pressure. Does she have time to explore life’s exciting
possibilities or indulge in her child’s mischievous pranks?
However old fashion it may sound, but a woman’s best place is her home,
especially a mother’s. Higher education is a must. But doing job isn’t. Unless you really
need to support your family. Even then there are lots an educated woman can do from
home. There are teaching jobs, and other part time openings that allows her to make best
of both world.
With more and more women willing to accept jobs outside their home. Children
are really neglected. Daycare centers are neither cheaper nor safe. Our grown up kids
look completely lost and frustrated. Family values count no more. Every individual is like
an island. Our societies are getting weaker. More and more men folk are taking the back
seat.
In some cases women are not happy to work outside, it goes against her gain.
Emotionally she loves to be close to her home and kids. But the male folks are to be
blamed.
But since present day values have changed if a women do not take up a job, it
goes against the tide. Whatever the present day tide, but with more and more women in
the job market have left a large number of capable men jobless, this is counter
productive.
Women must think right and carefully consider whether she needs a job. The child is important, a job isn’t.
Dr. Phil points out in one of his T.V. interview, “A mother with one child at
home is equivalent to two full time jobs outside.”
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